According to the book, proxemics is the study of how we use space when we communicate. It goes figure to say that "the ways we structure, use, and are affected by space, is an important aspect of our communication"(p103). Some people are very particular when it comes to their personal space, and don't like it when people are too close for them, especially when you don't know them. I had a friend visit Spain for a summer. She said she used public transportation to get around and they would stuff you in so you were practically on top of the person next to you. Suddenly she realized that someone was trying to reach in her pocket to take her cell phone. That kind of closeness now makes her very uncomfortable and leery of strangers, ultimately effecting how she comes across in public. She now keeps to herself when she rides BART or any other transportation, keeping everyone at a distance.
Chronemics is the study of "the use of time" (105). Many people, especially in a business setting have the expectation that people show up on time and come prepared. Being late can be viewed as a sign of disrespect, and makes you look bad (especially if you are late to meet a client). My personal experiences deal with my group of friends. When ever we make plans to go out, we can almost always say that one of our friends is going to be late. This really irritates everyone and can put a damper on our night. There have been times where we couldn't be seated until our entire party had arrived because people we late. This is definitely one of my biggest pet peeves.
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